Sunday, 14 October 2012

If Hindsight Was Foresight

Chad's grade had a school outing on Thursday, which I have been stressing about for some time now - in fact from when I heard about it. They had to spend the day at correctional services - Prison!! to see what life in the day of a hardened criminal was like. It is part of the GDE syllabus. Like that is going to stop anyone that is criminally inclined to think differently. If it did make a difference there wouldn't be any repeat offenders - our prisons are full of repeat offenders. Drug addicts get arrested for possession and the next day they are back on drugs. People drink and drive get arrested, spend the weekend in jail and then if not the next day, then the next month or year, they drink and drive again. Hardened criminals come out of prison and carry on committing crimes, raping and murdering. So whoever came up with this idea of sending high school children to see what it is like in prison is fooling no one. Yes it might scare some, but those that it does scare are the ones that are not criminally minded. If you are criminally inclined then nothing is going to stop you. It is that whole mentality of it won't happen to me.

Besides the whole thing of finding a visit to prison ridiculous, the outing was during the middle of the massive violent truck driver's strike happening around the country. They were stoning and burning trucks and anyone who got caught in the crossfire. The authorities warned the public not to drive under bridges or anywhere in the vicinity of the marching strikers. We had no idea which prison they were going to or which route they were taking and the bus was leaving at 7 am in peak hour traffic. I woke up as stressed as hell and then Mark and I made a decision that Chad was NOT going. Yes we signed the school rules and code of conduct that outings were compulsory, but we also have to sign and indemnity form, indemnifying the school of all responsibility and liability, but reasonable care to protect your child will be taken. Well I am sorry to say, sending a bus load of school children on an outing during a violent strike IS NOT reasonable care, never mind to a prison with hardened criminals. One of the rules was that the girls were not allowed to wear tight tops because the prisoners had not seen women for a long time. Excuse me!!! and it is safe to go on the tour - I think not. If I fight broke out in the block they were in, they would b moved to another block???? And this is a safe outing??? To travel in a bus during a violent strike when the authorities have warned you against unnecessary travel in areas where the strikers are - is that reasonable care and safety  - no it is not!!! Never mind the fact that every other week there is a tragedy involving school children and school buses.  Neither the school or the bus company can guarantee, that there would not be an accident. Again the mentality that it only happens to other people!!!!

The only reason why I sent Chad to that school is because they never used to go on camps and trips or hardly ever. Clint went 3 times - on day outings - not camps and definitely not to prison and in those days there were hardly any bus accidents especially involving children. We were also part of the "It only happens to other people" mentality. Now we know it happens to us too. I can not live through the death of my other child or live with myself if Chad is maimed. It is easy to say the day Chad dies I die, but is it as easy done as said. No I don't think so. This year alone there have been 3 or 4 and it is so stressful.

Chad was not pleased with our decision and there was a war of words in our house at 6 am. How unfair life is; how life sucks; how unfair I am; how I suck; how he is missing out???? Missing out on a visit to prison - yeah right. We won - he lost and sulked for a few hours. I left him went to work and phoned him at about 11 am, by then he had calmed down and agreed staying at home and relaxing and watching TV was far better than going off to see a bunch of robbers; rapists and murderers.

He does constantly remind me that nothing happened on the bus or at the prison and I constantly remind him that if hindsight was foresight, our lives would be very different today. I did not want Clint to go to extra maths that day. It had been raining hard, which meant he could not go on his bike and I took him to a friend to do Science homework. I told him to give extra maths a miss that day, but he wanted to go and then because it had stopped raining long before I fetched him from his friend, he said he was going on his bike. He wanted to go to extra maths and he wanted to go on his bike. If I had put my foot down and it turned into a fight, like Thursday morning with Chad, I wouldn't be typing this and our lives would not have been shattered and destroyed. Yes if only hindsight was foresight!!!!



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